At this time of year, we are usually bombarded with well-meaning advice on how to improve our lives. Usually this advice is along the line of sticking to our resolutions, making very tangible goals that can be measured and so on. This kind of practical activity has its place in creating a better future for ourselves and I wholly endorse it. There’s just one drawback, and it’s a big one: often these goals are build upon foundations of “shoulds”. Not what we want, but what society or our friends or our family tell us we ought to want. And when we build our goals on foundations of shoulds, we have a mighty hard time sticking to them. Our plans look like oceans before us and we have no wind in our sails. We find ourselves in the same place the next year, declaring the same resolutions all over again.
Today, let me humbly suggest that you forget tangible goals just for a little while. Instead: dream. What does your gut say you would love, love, to do or achieve? Maybe this year. Maybe next year. Maybe twenty years down the road.
Finish these sentences:
- I’ve always wanted to: ______________________________________.
- I wish I could:_____________________________________________.
- Someday, what I’d really love to do is: __________________________.
- The person whose job I really covet is: __________________________.
If your stomach doesn’t clench, you aren’t digging deep enough or thinking big enough. Keep going until you hit that spot. What I’m talking about here is in the context of work, but this can really apply to any area of your life.
Many of the big dreams I’ve had for myself professionally have come true in the past year or two. And, although there are certainly small steps which I’ve taken along the way, without recognizing and honoring my dreams, I would never have taken these steps. I would have stayed on another path.
Soon enough, you can create a solid plan with timelines and milestones and checkmarks. But for now, dream.