What do you want to be when you grow up?
Did anyone ever ask you that? Certainly, when you were a child. Maybe even last week. The problem is, when we ask the question that way — “what do you want to be?”– we are forcing a choice defined by title only.
As children and adults alike, we are generally very limited in our knowledge of all the roles available to us. So, we pick from those of which we are already aware: teacher, computer programmer, accountant, firefighter. Our interest in them is generally based on what we can see from the outside. The superficial. Perceived status, financial reward, glamour and more. Unfortunately, these things do not guarantee happiness in our work.
When we work, we are in the act of doing. When we are doing something we enjoy, it can be quite delightful. When we do something we are good at and we enjoy? That’s a recipe for success. On the other hand, I know plenty of attorneys who invested a lot years and a lot of dollars preparing for a career with a certain title, only to find that they don’t enjoy actually doing the work. What would they be doing now and how satisfied would they be if they had instead focused on what they liked to do?
Titles come and go. Twenty years ago, there was no such thing as a Search Engine Optimization Specialist. But there were plenty of Secretaries. By tying ourselves too closely to one title, we can spend years preparing ourselves for a role that is becoming obsolete, or entirely miss another role that could have been a perfect fit.
By focusing on what we like to do, it leads to exposure to other things we’ll like too, and if we are constantly pushing forward, we can end up with quite a portfolio of skills and knowledge which enable us to make a living doing what we enjoy.
So, the next time you’re talking to a child about their career interests, don’t ask them “what do you want to be when you grow up?” Ask them, “what do you like to do?” And, as you’re thinking about your next career step, ask yourself the same question.